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Yea I totally get having doubts about your faith and not wanting to pretend. I haven't been baptized but my family is christian/catholic, yet I feel like a lot of things preached in religion or posed as foundational truths just aren't right. Idk I just be thinking too logically sometimes, like if it wasn't for European colonialism telling everyone else they were wrong follow this instead we wouldn't all believe in God the way we do, like it could've been any other religion. Anyway I think that feeling your missing is just community. Making friends and hanging out with them or just being around people you feel comfortable being around is the best substitute to going to a place you don't feel you necessarily belong. Maybe making more plans with your friends and a bit of karaoke really the best move.

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It's hard to balance doing your best to help them and looking after yourself knowing you can't and shouldn't be expected to burden all of their issues. First remember it's not your job to be their only lifeline, second do your best to recommend them more professional or other resources to help them. If they take those methods of help then that should alleviate what you gotta deal with, and then you can help them in a more reasonable sense without sacrificing your sanity/wellbeing.

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I totally get the feeling of thinking you're not doing enough, especially with social media where you're at in life can feel daunting compared to others. I looked at it as it could always be worse, and the only thing I have control over is what I can do to change things. Consistency is key, keep improving yourself until you're where your idols are.

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If multiple students felt it, you may not have to carry it alone. Reporting as a group can reduce the pressure.

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Starting over is always scary. Make sure you have a strong foundation to fall back on, but with your rest of the life ahead of you why not just pursue what you want before you spend the rest of your life regretting.

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A part of it honestly is that you guys were around each other so often. There's nothing necessarily wrong with that tho, some ppl are for certain moments of your life, people don't have to stick around forever, ppl change and that's a good thing.

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See how the internship goes, the anxiety could just be because now there are expectations and you know the work will be challenging. If you don't love what you're doing then maybe it was for validation

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I quit most social media but kept messaging apps. The trick was replacing the habit, not just deleting it. If you're doing nothing in that time, soon enough you'll be picking up your phone and redownloading those apps.

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I joined a startup because I wanted something exciting. Some days were genuinely great. Other days were complete chaos. I do not regret it, but I am glad I asked a lot of questions before jumping in. Excitement alone is not enough reason.

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Being the only single friend can be lonely in a very specific way. I started making one-on-one plans and stopped attending every couple-heavy thing.

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My partner and I fostered first. It showed us the real workload without a 12-year commitment.

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I stepped down from a lead role once because I thought the new role's responsibilities were too much. At the beginning there's a bit of shame, embarrassment and doubt of whether it was the right decision or not. Looking back at it now it was an incredible decision. Regardless of status or perceptions of you, doing what you think is best is always the right move. You know you best, just don't be afraid because of what others might think.

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Do not silently save everyone. That teaches the person nothing and makes you furious.

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I copied confident people in small ways first. Asking a question. Wearing the thing. Leaving without apologizing. It builds.

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Your life is nothing to be ashamed about, the best thing you can do is be there for your brother and support him through whatever he's going through. Instead of feeling ashamed yourself, maybe talk to those who continuously compare the two of you and talk to them about how it makes you and your brother feel

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I’d avoid 'I hate your partner' and instead name the behavior. 'I noticed they joke at your expense a lot. How does that feel to you?'

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Don't take it personally, it's not like they've disliked you the entire time, it's just a matter of conveinence and attention. If you make a concerted effort to reach out, I think they would reciprocate it. If they don't maybe they aren't friends worth keeping around.

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Getting what you wanted can feel weirdly empty. Nobody warned me about that. I thought the job offer would make me feel like a new person, but I was still me, just with a better email signature.

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At the end of the day it's your life to live. Comparing yourself to others constantly will only devalue any joy you can get from looking back and seeing how far you've come irrespective of how many kids you have/don't have.

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Lonely does not always mean alone. That was the annoying lesson for me. I had plans every weekend and still felt like nobody really knew what was going on with me. It was confusing because from the outside I looked totally fine.

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