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My friendships after college feel weaker than I expected

🦉SilverOwl427Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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Since graduating, I feel like everyone is slowly drifting into their own lives. We still text occasionally, but it does not feel the same. I am trying not to take it personally, but sometimes it makes me wonder if those friendships were only strong because we were always around each other. I would appreciate perspectives from people who have gone through this transition.

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🌙 CalmOcean735

A part of it honestly is that you guys were around each other so often. There's nothing necessarily wrong with that tho, some ppl are for certain moments of your life, people don't have to stick around forever, ppl change and that's a good thing.

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🌲 HiddenMaple502

Don't take it personally, it's not like they've disliked you the entire time, it's just a matter of conveinence and attention. If you make a concerted effort to reach out, I think they would reciprocate it. If they don't maybe they aren't friends worth keeping around.

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🕊️ GentleSparrow294

If they're not making an effort in the friendship, maybe its best to find new friends who will include you or will make you feel cared about

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