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My partner wants a dog and I’m not ready

🪐WanderingJuniper593Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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This sounds minor but it’s becoming a real argument. My partner has wanted a dog forever. I like dogs, but I know the daily work is a lot and I don’t want to say yes just to be nice. They hear “not now” as “never.” I hear “let’s get a dog” as “your free time is gone.”

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🐚 SouthSparrow818

My partner and I fostered first. It showed us the real workload without a 12-year commitment.

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🌻 SouthMaple581

A dog is not a symbol of love. It is a daily logistics decision. You’re right to treat it seriously.

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