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I feel behind because I don’t want kids yet

🌻SouthMaple581Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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A lot of my friends are having babies or actively trying. I’m happy for them, genuinely. But every time another announcement happens I feel like I’m failing some invisible timeline. I’m not even sure I want kids. I just hate feeling like the only person who hasn’t decided. How do you separate what you want from what everyone around you is doing?

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🌻 BrightFern656

At the end of the day it's your life to live. Comparing yourself to others constantly will only devalue any joy you can get from looking back and seeing how far you've come irrespective of how many kids you have/don't have.

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🪐 WanderingJuniper593

Not wanting kids yet is not the same as being behind. Kids are not an assignment due by a certain age.

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🦌 BrightMoon557

Sometimes announcements trigger comparison even when you don’t want the thing. You may be grieving certainty more than motherhood.

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