🦌BrightMoon557Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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I grew up going to church every week. I stopped in college and told myself it was because I was busy, but really I had doubts and felt weird pretending.
Now I miss the community more than the beliefs. I miss singing with people and having somewhere to go on Sunday. I don’t know what to do with that feeling. It feels like missing a place I’m not sure I belong in.
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🦊 HiddenRiver964
Yea I totally get having doubts about your faith and not wanting to pretend. I haven't been baptized but my family is christian/catholic, yet I feel like a lot of things preached in religion or posed as foundational truths just aren't right. Idk I just be thinking too logically sometimes, like if it wasn't for European colonialism telling everyone else they were wrong follow this instead we wouldn't all believe in God the way we do, like it could've been any other religion. Anyway I think that feeling your missing is just community. Making friends and hanging out with them or just being around people you feel comfortable being around is the best substitute to going to a place you don't feel you necessarily belong. Maybe making more plans with your friends and a bit of karaoke really the best move.
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🌊 SilverRiver448
I left church and missed it way more than I expected. I did not miss every belief. I missed singing with people and having somewhere to be on Sunday. It helped me separate faith from community a little bit.
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🌙 HollowMaple261
I know people who miss church even after they stop believing. Sometimes it's not really about belief. It's about having a place to go every week and seeing the same people.
🦊 WanderingFox602
I see this differently than people saying “just find community elsewhere.” Some parts of church are not easy to replace. If you are unsure, maybe you do not have to fully leave or fully stay right now.
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