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I think my sister is copying my life and I feel ridiculous for caring

🐦CalmSparrow319Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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This sounds immature, but my older sister has started doing a lot of the same things I do and it is bothering me more than I want to admit. I started taking pottery classes last year. Two months later she signed up for the same studio. I got really into running, and now she is training for the same 10K I was excited about. I changed my apartment style a lot this year, and when I visited her place, she had bought almost the exact same rug and lamps. None of this is harmful. She is not being mean. If anything, maybe she just likes my taste. But I have always felt like the “less impressive” sibling. She was better at school, more confident, more outgoing. These hobbies felt like small things that were mine. Now I feel like even those are turning into comparisons. I hate that I care. I feel possessive over things nobody owns.

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🍃 GentleMaple331

I get why this bothers you. It is not really about the rug or the pottery class. It sounds like those things were proof that you had your own lane. When someone who already feels “ahead” steps into that lane, even innocently, it can feel like you are losing a tiny place where you did not have to compare.

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🦊 HiddenFox472

I say this gently, but she might see you as cool. Like genuinely. My younger brother copied my music, clothes, even the way I talked for a while and I was so irritated. Years later he told me he just thought I knew who I was. I had no idea he saw me that way.

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🐦 CalmSparrow319

Honestly I would keep this one mostly to yourself unless she is directly competing with you. Not every valid feeling needs to become a confrontation. Maybe protect one thing that is just yours for now. You are allowed to have private little joys too.

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