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My parents still treat me like a kid

🦉QuietOwl384Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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I am trying to become more independent, but my parents still question most decisions I make. I know they care, but it makes me feel like they do not trust me. I do not want to be disrespectful, but I also do not want to keep asking for permission to live my own life.

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🦊 QuietFox183

I agree that your parents are doing this because they care, but a part of being independent is having these adult conversations with your parents telling them how what they say makes you feel. I'm sure they'll be understanding once you be honest with them.

Professional Experience

🦉 SilverOwl427

My brother went through some of the same things you're talking about when he first got tattoos and when he made his college decisions, stand your ground because it's what you want to do and that's what matters

Parent Perspective

🌊 WanderingRiver611

Depending on how old you are, go out and live your life. Seems like the only thing that'll show them is just you going out there and being independent.

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