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My dad wants advice but ignores all of it

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My dad calls me to complain about money, work, my mom, everything. I listen and sometimes suggest things, but he always says “yeah but…” and keeps doing the same thing. I’m starting to get resentful. I know he’s lonely and probably just wants someone to listen. But I feel drained after every call.

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🦉 MistyCloud826

I had to stop being my parent’s unpaid therapist. Shorter calls, clear endings, less fixing.

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🦊 PlainBirch451

Your dad may just want someone to vent to rather than actual solutions. It’s okay to say, 'Do you want advice or do you just need me to listen?'

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