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My dad keeps asking me to join the family business

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My dad owns a small HVAC company that he built from nothing. He is proud of it, and honestly he should be. It paid for our house, my college, everything. For the past year he has been hinting that I should come work with him. Lately it has become more direct. He says things like, “I built this so you would have something secure,” and “I do not want strangers running it when I retire.” I currently work as a graphic designer. I do not make a ton of money, but I like the work. I like the people. I like that my job is mine. The family business would probably be more stable long term, but I feel this heavy pressure every time he brings it up. My mom says I should at least try it for a year because it would mean a lot to him. I am scared that saying no will hurt him deeply. But saying yes feels like accepting a life I never actually chose.

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🦡 CalmBadger918

I grew up in a family business too. The hardest part is that “no” feels like rejecting the family, not just rejecting the job. But your dad building something does not automatically mean your life has to become the retirement plan. That is a lot to put on a kid, even an adult kid.

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🍃 GentleMaple331

Maybe there is a middle option? Like helping him with branding, the website, ads, or design stuff for the business without fully joining it. That might show him you respect what he built without signing up for a whole life you do not really want.

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🌊 HiddenRiver640

Trying it for one year sounds harmless, but family businesses can be sticky. Once you are in, leaving may feel even worse. I would be careful with any “temporary” decision that everyone else secretly hopes becomes permanent.

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