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I’m scared my best years already happened

🦊PlainBirch451Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
Perspective requested:People older than me

I’m 29 and I know that’s not old, but lately I keep thinking college was the peak. Friends lived nearby, everything felt open, and I had energy. Now life is bills, work, scheduling coffee three weeks out, and trying to sleep enough. Please tell me there are good chapters after this, because right now adulthood feels like a slow narrowing.

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People older than me

🕊️ SilverStone900

I’m 42 and my thirties were much better than my twenties. Less chaos, better friends, more self-respect. Life did not peak at college.

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