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Everyone around me seems ahead of me

🕊️BraveFox784Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently

Lately it feels like everyone I know is accomplishing major life milestones. Some are getting engaged, some are buying houses, some are starting impressive careers. Meanwhile I feel like I'm still figuring things out. I know comparison isn't healthy, but it's difficult not to feel behind sometimes.

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🍃 BrightMaple207

I do not think comparison is always bad. Sometimes jealousy is just information. Maybe part of you does want some of what they have. The problem is when you turn that into “I am behind” instead of “what do I actually want?”

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🦉 GentleOwl510

This sounds dumb but I muted a few people on social media and my life instantly got quieter. Not better overnight, but quieter. I realized I was comparing my Tuesday afternoon to somebody else’s biggest announcement of the year.

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🦊 SilverFox228

A lot of comments say comparison is always bad. I do not completely agree. Sometimes comparison tells you what you actually want. The trick is using it as information instead of proof that you are failing.

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