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My new job is remote and I am starting to feel invisible

🌊WanderingRiver681Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently

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I started a remote job four months ago. The work is fine, the pay is better than my last job, and everyone is polite. But I feel weirdly invisible. Meetings are mostly cameras off. People are friendly in Slack but not actually personal. I finish my tasks, send updates, and then close my laptop feeling like I barely existed all day. At my old job, I complained about the commute and office small talk. Now I miss random conversations by the coffee machine, which is annoying because I used to hate those conversations. I am not lonely in my whole life, but I feel lonely during the workday. I also worry that because nobody really knows me, I will be easier to forget when opportunities come up. Is this just remote work, or am I failing to put myself out there?

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🦊 SilverFox713

Remote work made me realize I was getting more identity from office life than I thought. Not in a dramatic way, just the tiny stuff. Someone laughing at your joke, asking about your weekend, noticing you got a haircut. Slack does not really replace that.

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🦦 QuietOtter214

I disagree with people who say remote is automatically lonely. My remote job is the most connected I have felt, but my manager is very deliberate about it. So maybe ask: is this remote work, or is this company bad at remote culture? Those are different things.

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🐦 BrightSparrow144

I would be a little intentional before deciding remote work is the problem. Ask one coworker for a casual 15 minute coffee chat. Turn your camera on sometimes. Send one non-task message a day. Annoying, yes. But remote jobs do not create visibility unless someone makes it happen.

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