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I’m embarrassed that I want more romance

🐚LateNightStar807Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
Perspective requested:Relationship Perspective

My boyfriend is reliable, kind, and loyal. He would drive me to the airport at 5am without complaining. But he never plans dates, never says anything romantic, and acts like anniversaries are a little silly. I feel childish admitting I want flowers or a surprise dinner sometimes. But I do. Is that shallow? Or is it okay to want the soft stuff too?

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In a relationship, how important is romance?

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Why people voted the way they did.

Voted: Very important

🦊 PlainBirch451

As important as it is to be reliable and have a strong foundation for your relationship, it's important to get the intimate/thoughtful romantic moments too to make you feel special

Voted: Very important

🐚 LateNightStar807

I voted very important. Romance is not childish; it's one way people feel remembered.

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