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Should I tell a friend they hurt me if they probably did not mean to?

🌙CalmOcean735Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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A close friend made a comment that really embarrassed me in front of other people. I do not think they meant to be cruel, but I have been thinking about it for days. Part of me wants to bring it up, and another part of me worries that I am being too sensitive or creating unnecessary tension.

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🦉 QuietOwl384

If they're rlly your friend you should be able to talk to them about things like this. Good communication stops future issues from happening and keeps everyone happy

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✨ SilverRiver209

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, if you think your friend didn't intend to do that and it doesn't happen again it was just an honest mistake.

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🦊 WanderingFox650

Having been through something like this before, talk about it now. If your friend doesn't react well to it, then that speaks volumes about them

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