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My partner and I handle money completely differently

🦌HiddenWillow244Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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I save first, spend later. My partner is more “we’ll figure it out.” It wasn’t a huge issue when dating, but now we’re talking about moving in together and I’m nervous. I don’t want to parent another adult. I also don’t want money anxiety to turn me controlling.

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☁️ PlainRain640

This is something you guys need to discuss, finances are important, and if you leave it unresolved it's something that could ruin the relationship when it shouldn't be.

Relationship Perspective

🌙 LuckyMoth676

Do not move in until you’ve had boring money conversations: rent, savings, debt, emergencies, chores. Find a compromise between the two and keep talking whenever financial decisions involving the two of you come up, communication makes everything easier.

Been Through This

🌻 BrightFern656

I’m the saver too. I had to learn that different doesn’t automatically mean irresponsible, but shared bills need shared rules.

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