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I hate how much I care about being invited

🦊SoftCoyote540Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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A group of friends went to dinner and I only found out from a photo. It wasn’t a huge thing, and maybe it was last minute, but I’ve been thinking about it for two days. I wish I could be chill. Instead I feel like I’m back in middle school wondering why I wasn’t picked. How do adults deal with this without spiraling?

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🦉 SilverOwl735

I hate admitting this but I care about being invited too. Even when I know I would not have gone lol. Sometimes the invite is not about the event. It is about knowing you crossed someone’s mind.

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🐚 UrbanMoth303

I usually wait a day before reacting. If it still hurts, I ask lightly instead of accusing: 'Hey, would love to join next time if there’s room.'

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🦉 SoftOtter335

Being left out hurts because belonging matters. You don’t need to shame yourself for having a normal human reaction.

🦊 BrightFox119

I think at some point you have to stop measuring friendship by invitations. Some people are bad planners. Some groups are casual. If they show up for you in other ways, I would not make the invite thing the whole scoreboard.

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