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I agreed to be maid of honor and now I regret it

🍃GentleMaple331Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
Perspective requested:People who have been in weddings

My best friend asked me to be her maid of honor and I said yes immediately because I love her and was genuinely happy. Now we are three months in and I am overwhelmed. She texts me almost every day about flowers, dresses, seating charts, family drama, hotel blocks, everything. I work full time and I am studying for a certification exam at night. I know weddings are stressful. I know she trusts me. But I feel like I accidentally accepted a part-time job. The worst part is that she keeps saying, “I could not do this without you,” which makes me feel even more trapped. I do not want to make her feel abandoned. I also do not want to spend the next eight months silently annoyed at someone I care about. Is there a way to step back without damaging the friendship?

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🍃 GentleMaple331

“I could not do this without you” sounds sweet but it is also a lot of pressure. I would tell her you love her and want to show up well, but the current amount of wedding work is more than you can handle.

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🕯️ QuietLantern482

I was a maid of honor and I wish I had set office hours lol. Like “I can do wedding stuff Sunday afternoons, but not every night after work.” It sounds formal but honestly weddings make people forget you have a life.

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🦡 CalmBadger918

Do not “step back” vaguely. That can feel like disappearing. Give her a list of what you can still own and what she needs to move to someone else. People handle boundaries better when they know what is still true.

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