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My roommate is nice but I can’t relax at home

🌻BrightFern656Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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This is probably small compared to what other people post, but it’s been wearing me down. My roommate is not a bad person. They pay rent, clean sometimes, and aren’t loud. But they are always in the living room and always want to talk. I come home from work and feel like I have to perform being friendly in my own apartment. I don’t want to hurt their feelings. I also don’t want to keep hiding in my room.

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If home doesn’t feel restful, what matters more?

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Voted: Protecting quiet timeChanged 1 perspective

🐚 LateNightStar807

I chose quiet time. Your roommate sounds kind, but your home is a place meant for you to relax and be yourself. I'm sure they would understand if you just talk to them about how you feel.

Voted: Keeping peace with roommateChanged 1 perspective

🕊️ LostPine766

I voted keeping peace, but only if peace includes an honest talk. Silence plus resentment isn't peace.

Voted: Protecting quiet time

🌻 BrightFern656

I picked quiet time because home is where you're suppose to be able to get away from it all. If you can't relax there, everything else gets harder.

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