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I’m jealous of my friend’s confidence

🕊️QuietOtter377Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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My friend can walk into any room and just be herself. She posts online, talks to strangers, wears whatever, asks for what she wants. I admire it but also feel this ugly jealousy. I don’t want to resent her for having something I wish I had. How do you learn confidence without pretending?

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🧡 TiredOcean140

Confidence is often just repeated evidence that embarrassment won’t kill you. Your friend has more reps, not magic.

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