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I want a quieter life than my friends

🧡SummerComet438Helpful Perspectives Given: 0Member since Recently
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My friends want big trips, packed weekends, constant plans. I used to try to keep up, but I’m happiest cooking dinner, reading, walking around, sleeping early. Sometimes I feel boring. Like I’m opting out of my own twenties. But loud fun doesn’t always feel fun to me.

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Am I wasting my twenties if I'm not always outside?

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Voted: No, you do you

🌻 SouthMaple581

It's great that your friends try to connect as much as possible, but thee's nothing wrong with declining a couple times to enjoy your alone time. You'll be glad you took the time for yourself and didn't act in contrast to who you are!

Voted: Yes, make the most of it

🐚 UrbanMoth303

I get that you want some alone time, but in the future you're going to wish you were outside with your best friends. These are the good old days.

Voted: No, you do you

🧡 SummerComet438

Nah it takes a lot out of anyone to be outside all the time. You seem to be hanging out with your friends often and that's good, but you also deserve time for yourself to relax and do what you love to do.

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